The Seeming And The Real (II)

The Seeming And The Real (II) - All emotions are based on love or fear and are therefore driven by either or, I recently heard somewhere. Well, I actually disagree as this would generally be too easy to say. After all, aren't there a few more mental states such as anger, grief and sadness? I simply find it hard to accept those as automatically being categorized under fear. With regard to the term love, on the other hand, I am willing to stretch it as far as covering feelings such as ecstasy, joy and happiness, at least to some extent. In my opinion, the emotional side of a human being is just as diverse and multi- faceted in structure as is their organism. I just love the analogy of an onion here which as we all know consists of quite an impressive number of layers. As you keep peeling them away, you eventually get to its rather tender core. Similarly, our most vulnerable nucleus seeks to stay guarded, and for that particular reason, we tend to hide behind manifold emotions. Thus, shyness is commonly expressed through unanticipated bursts of laughter or giggles of the sort mentioned last time already. Sure enough, it shows potential to throw us off, striking us as peculiar or even uncalled for, but the mere intent of generously overlooking such in an undisturbed fashion facilitates any further contact, and at the same time, it takes away a lot of pressure on the introvert's part. Nevertheless, the paradigm appears to be shifting especially when dealing with a dual emotional set- up, so to speak. Let's zoom in on anger, for instance. Encountering angry individuals makes us either surrender and ultimately withdraw should we generally shy confrontation altogether or respond accordingly strongly. In other words, our typical ways of reaction are defined by either flight or fight. Now, just as fast we actually prove to be when it comes to judging a hot head as someone who must simply be entertaining the routine of flying off the handle easily. Well, we had better stop this thought dead in its track right there because in all likelihood we are jumping the gun all over again. I essentially look at anger as a cloaked emotion more than anything else. Just like an imposing fire wall or a massive and equally intimidating canon, it grants us perfect protection to unwanted invaders. What lies behind anger is usually a completely different beast, though. Yes, absolutely correct, fear may indeed be the original source of anger, even though not exclusively. Lots of folks mask grave (fear- driven) insecurities just as fiercely as grief or sadness. The latter two may be fairly similar in nature and intensity but derive from different situations. However, if those two melt into one giant sentiment of melancholy, the farce commonly displayed to the world takes on an elevated level of complexity. Unless those people are willing to be liberated from their super- protective but simultaneously suffocating layers, we shall just be left groping in the dark and consequently walk away frustrated or aggravated ourselves. - I, for example, seem to just love falling back onto an overall angry behavior which definitely stems from fears, even though, only to a small degree. It took me a long time [for sure, better late than never - LOL] to figure out that other (shadow) part on a much deeper level. Once it dawned on me, it felt like being struck by lightening at full force, and who would have thought, out of the blue. That veil lifted, and I instantly came to realize that the actual sentiment underlying most of my anger management issues is profound sadness - the roots of which I have not been able to find an explanation as of yet. So, instead of just falling into an obvious depression and expressing this mental heaviness by means of adequate channels such as crying my eyes out, I feel way too threatened as far as possibly getting hurt badly. As a result, I just resort back to anger, my most familiar and hence safest modality. - To sum up, I guess it's fair to say that nobody is principally knit the easy- going way. Rather the exact opposite seems to be the case. We are actually so much more complex in nature that the often superficial first glance plus the overhasty judgment will never do it any justice, much less any service with respect to the attempt of compartmentalization.